Angry

I posted the following on Facebook today:

"If there is one thing that I don't understand and can't stand, it's a woman who thinks that a man owes her a living when she is fully capable of making her own way in the world. She just hasn't learned that living well without a man is the best revenge. Counting on him to pay your way in the world, makes you a leech and shows everyone that you can't accept your culpability in why it went wrong and why you are all alone."

 I am now going to tell my own story.  And it is a story that has made me a strong, independent woman, who doesn't need a man to complete her.

 I was living with my last husband in a little fishing village, just south of Cancun, Mexico.  We had been there just over 3 years and had been married for 21 years.  We had been through many struggles and I thought that the worst thing that could happen to me would be if my husband left me.

You see, he had me convinced that I was nothing without him.  Somewhere along the way, I began to believe him.

 It was December 14th of that year that he left on a business trip to Miami and disappeared.  I had no idea of what had happened to him.  He left me with $200, $100 that I spent on groceries the day he left, as it was my mid-month shopping trip in Cancun.

 So I found myself in a foreign country with $100 to my name, not knowing what I was going to do.  I pulled myself up, sold everything that I could and left Mexico with only $2,300 and no idea where my husband was.  I was back in the states by January 9th with no idea what I was going to do or where I was going to wind up.

But I did it.  Yes, with the help of some friends, but mostly with my own reserves that I never knew I had.  I got a job, found out where my husband was (with the help of a friend), hired a lawyer and divorced him, without asking for a dime.  I got my own apartment (furnished and without a TV).  I did without and drew on an inner strength that I never knew I had. 

I am proud to say that I never had to rely on him for anything.  Everything that I have today, I have earned.  On my own.  I did it and didn't need a man to get there.  I have a nice 401k and a pension.  I'll never be rich, but I will never need a man to 'keep' me.

My current husband's ex wife seems to think that she is entitled to LOTS of $$ even though she has a full time job.  She thinks that punishing him will make her better.  Little does she know that she has sunk to a new low.  And little does she know that you can't get blood from a stone.  If it is one thing that I have learned over the years, it is to protect my assets and not completely meld my life with someone else's, even though I would like to think that I could.  I have become smart over the years and will never let anyone else take advantage of me like my ex-husband did by trusting that they would do the right thing when the time came. 

I am self reliant and proud.