Life is Not Fair Sometimes

Life is not always fair.  We learn that somewhere along the way, but sometimes it hurts more than at other times.  Today is one of those days...

My husband suffered a stroke 2 years ago this month.  We made it through that crisis with flying colors.  He is back to normal, without any side affects and on numerous medications.  Unfortunately, he has not been able to secure steady work since then.  Today, he had to go to court to defend himself in not being able to pay alimony to his ex wife.  They made him fly from Phoenix to Albany, NY to appear in court for a total of 45 minutes, without the judge even asking him one question!

I won't go into all the details, but the judge refused to rule on the situation, stating that he strongly suggested that they come to some sort of settlement to prevent this from going before a jury.  She does have to provide a sworn statement stating what she did with all his belongings that she was supposed to provide to him and which, she has stated up to this point, that she gave to Goodwill, without notifying him!  Some of those belongings include silver ingots.

So, they had before them a broken man financially, who has had to borrow from me to pay for the lawyer and the trip to NY today and the judge said he couldn't rule on the situation because he didn't have enough information, even though numerous documents had been presented to prove my husband's financial hardship.  The only income he has at this point in time is his SS check of $2,100/month!

New York truly needs to revamp their divorce and alimony laws to take into consideration that she is currently working in a management position, owns a condo, all new furnishings, new car and a pedigree dog, but somehow thinks that he should be paying for her lavish lifestyle while making him suffer to support that lifestyle.

I'm going to end this now before my nasty side comes out.  I understand that previous wives deserve something, but there has got to be an end to that support within a given time frame.  Enough is enough!

I'll step down off my soapbox now.  Please forgive me for my anger over this situation.  And you wonder why I want to leave this wonderful country...